More and more my patients are becoming addicted to their devices. I am concerned that their communication and social skills may be stifled. We are who we are in a large part by what we do. Children and adults who spend hours on devices miss opportunities and to grow as individuals.
It is best to limit exposure to the internet and social media. There’s a false narrative of what’s real. Unfortunately it is not the curators of the net to assume that responsibility. As parents and as families it is our role to take over responsibility.
5 Tips for Parents
Keep devices out of kids’ bedrooms.
Set up online firewalls and data cutoffs.
Create a device contract.
Model healthy device behaviors.
Consider old-school flip phones for your kids.
Taken from: Is Your Kid Hooked on Smartphones? 5 Tips for Parents
Our minds can be hijacked’: the tech insiders who fear a smartphone dystopia
I am afraid that my patients as well as their parents are naively and freely disclosing personal information online in mediums that they trust and believe to be secure. As all the recent hacks of government and corporpate networks that information is not secure. Now it is becoming more evident that the behemoth techno companies Alphabet (Google) and Facebook (aka Instagram and WhatsApp) know too much about their users.
What this means is that even more than it is in the advertising business, Facebook is in the surveillance business. Facebook, in fact, is the biggest surveillance-based enterprise in the history of mankind. It knows far, far more about you than the most intrusive government has ever known about its citizens. It’s amazing that people haven’t really understood this about the company. I’ve spent time thinking about Facebook, and the thing I keep cominfg back to is that its users don’t realise what it is the company does. Read more in the following article.
Excerpt from “You are the product”
2001: A Space Odyssey (1968)
Director: Stanley Kubrick
So how do you reduce your anxiety and permit your brain to sleep effectively?
Here are some suggestions:
During the day, practice not reacting to incoming alerts or notifications like one of Pavlov’s dogs. Don’t check your phone every time it beeps. In fact, turn off notifications and check on a schedule to retrain your brain’s neurotransmitters (particularly cortisol). Start by checking every 15 minutes, and gradually increase that to 30 minutes or more. Tell your family, friends, and colleagues that you may not respond immediately, but you will within a specified amount of time, such as 30 minutes to an hour later.
Stop using all devices one hour prior to sleep.
Put all devices away in another room rather than keep them in the bedroom to discourage you from checking them during the night. (If you must keep a phone nearby in case of emergency, set it so that it only rings when certain people are calling, but still place it across the room and away from your bedside.)
An hour before bedtime, start dimming the room lights slowly to release melatonin.
During the last hour before bedtime, choose an activity that your brain will find predictable and, thus, not anxiety-provoking. Consider any of the following:
Watch a television show that you love, maybe even a repeat.
Read a paper book (or use a Kindle which doesn’t emit blue light) by a familiar author.
Listen to music that is very familiar like a playlist of your favorite songs. If you need a device to do this, burn CDs and get a CD player. (The key is to use a device that doesn’t have internet access, email, or a phone.) Keep the volume low.
If you awaken in the middle of the night, try this trick: have a song lyric in mind (not the whole song) that you plan to sing in your mind over and over to block the anxiety and allow you to fall back to sleep. Another option is to learn one of many meditation techniques and practice and use those skills to calm your mind.
Our devices are a gift that connect us to so many people and so much information, but they do not have to raise our anxiety and harm our all-important sleep. We need to control our devices, rather than letting them control us.
Relax, Turn Off Your Phone, and Go to Sleep
Explosive Spring by Salvador Dali
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with showing a little vulnerability now and again, but what people want to see is true confidence and sincerity in your abilities whatever status you are. It’s about how authentic you are at the end of the day. If you’re super successful, but always telling people how incompetent you are, they’ll quickly get turned off because you’re coming across as insincere. Conversely, if you’re over-confident with little or no basis or track record, people are going to be equally turned off, as you can’t back up your overbearing demeanor with any substantial achievements. Finding the right balance between confidence and the understanding you don’t know everything and are constantly learning can be honed over time, but it’s important for your personal brand.
Founder and principal strategist, Delightful Communications; Author, Pioneers of Digital
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