Sharenting: Impact on Children’s Privacy

 

Jozef Israëls (Dutch Realist painter, Mother and Child by the Sea Jozef Israëls (Dutch Realist painter,

A parent’s own decision to share a child’s personal information online is a potential source of harm that has gone largely unaddressed. Children not only have interests in protecting negative information about themselves on their parent’s newsfeed, but also may not agree with a parent’s decision to share any personal information—negative or positive—about them in the online world. There is no “opt-out” link for children and split-second decisions made by their parents will result in indelible digital footprints. While adults have the ability to set their own parameters when sharing their personal information in the virtual world, children are not afforded such control over their digital footprint unless there are limits on parents. 
Excerpt from:

Sharenting: Children’s Privacy in the Age of Social Media

Family – Everyone Has One

Mildred Davis.Davis, a popular actress of the silent era, is best known for her work as the leading lady in Harold Lloyd's comedies from 1919 to 1923. She also became Lloyd's leading lady off-screen and they enjoyed one of the longest Hollywood marriages, lasting 46 years until her death in 1969

Mildred Davis.Davis, a popular actress of the silent era, is best known for her work as the leading lady in Harold Lloyd’s comedies from 1919 to 1923. She also became Lloyd’s leading lady off-screen and they enjoyed one of the longest Hollywood marriages, lasting 46 years until her death in 1969

Having loved ones around you, and being able to see your family whenever you choose, is a crucial part of success. The greatest support system in the world is good family and friends. You can’t be careless here, you need great relationships and those who make you better. Remember, you can’t change your family, and trying to do so will cause you endless stress and frustration. Love them and appreciate them for who they are.

It is nice to be important but more important to be nice!

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Although we should all aspire to this ethic, we rarely do. I came across this motto or expression while listening to the obituary of Hal Jackson a black radio pioneer this weekend. It caused me to research the origin and as far as I can discern it may have originated from singer actor Eddie Cantor. Please review the histories of both of these pioneers. Click this link for other quotes from Eddie Cantor.

I guess this quotation may mean different things to each of us. It always must be taken within the context of where we have been with our lives. Where we are going with our lives, jobs, families and our own life situations.

When I consider life choices first with relationships, dating and marriage, then parenting, child development, literacy and school readiness, preschool and alternative child care, kindergarten and beyond. The relationships of our children through school, sports and other activities mold their personalities. Their personalities are obviously effected by family, faith, and peers. We must always focus on our experiences and try to retain our humor and value regardless of our circumstance.

Newborn instructions

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Mother and Child by Emanuel Phillips Fox, 1908.

There are a number of good books on infant and child care. The only problem is that they often say things differently. My new parents are often confused by the well-meaning advice that they receive both in print and from friends or family.

Often at the first visit either before delivery or at the first well exam, I spend thirty minutes demystifying their child.

The first two weeks at home are often hard. The Gerber baby did not come home with them. Feeding is hard and sleep is a scarce commodity.

Many moms choose to breast feed but many moms either choose not to nurse or cannot nurse. That is the decision of the mother. Nursing is a huge commitment and the parent must feel good about how they choose to feed their child.

Initial feeding whether at breast or bottle is on demand, however if the baby has not awakened in 4 hours, he should be wakened for feeding. Your baby may not feed well every feeding but at least he should feed well every other feeding. Good babies do not sleep well at night usually for the first 2 weeks at home. Babies are often very sleepy on day 3 and 4 but should be more wakeful by day 4 or 5. Your baby may be fussy the first 2 weeks. If he is feeding, passing urine and passing POOP, then I am not too concerned. Your baby may easily loose 8-10 oz those first 4 to 5 days. A normal term baby should be back to birth weight by 2 weeks of age. Breast feeding is not easy and the first 2 weeks are not the warm fuzzy experience that most parents expect. Be Patient! Once your milk comes in usually day 3 to 5, your baby will be more content and you will be happier as well. Keep in mind that each baby’s temperament and each mom is different.

Your newborn may only nurse well at the first breast and fall asleep on the second breast 10-30 min later he will wake and want to feed on the other breast, that is ok but tiring.

Formula fed infants will take 1-2 oz per feeding every 2-3 hours.

In most cases the baby is fussy that is due to your infant having not eaten before and it requires some changes with in his stomach. He is uncomfortable due to the passage of gas and poop. That will improve over the next 2 weeks. Frequent formula changes may not help and that may be unnecessary.

Each newborn is different and each birthing experience is different. Most of my parents do not have the extended local family network that their parents had. Surround yourself with supportive people. Ask your doctor or breast-feeding advisor for help and support.

There are so many books and articles out there that a lot of my parents do not know where to get reliable information.

Terry Brazelton MD has been a reference that I have used for over thirty years.  Here is a link to his newsletter that he has linked in the NAEYC website.