Fiery, passionate love is great — Basing a lifelong commitment on those emotions can be unstable. What happens when that burning love fades?
So while passion is great, there needs to be friendship and mutual respect to make sure your relationship can stand the test of time.
What gets in the way of that? We’re often focused on the qualities in a partner that are mysterious and different. That can be good for passionate affairs but what works for marriage is more often similarity.
Marriage isn’t worse than it used to be, but it’s certainly different. Love-based marriage has the potential to be far, far more fulfilling than unions of the past.
Crazy love rarely lasts. Friendship does.
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